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Ladies, I think it’s safe to say that we’ve ALL been here a time or two in our “dating lives”. It’s a sad thing to think about when the person you care about (or even love) makes you feel like that magic spark is fizzing out. You stop and think to yourself: “Is this really happening, or am I just making too much of it?”
As
women we do have the tendency to “over-think, over-analyze" and create
un-necessary drama in our minds about the men we date. It’s the nature of the beast. Although there is nothing wrong with being attentive,
we must really be careful to not create something that isn’t really there. Sometimes, by reading into things we create
problems where there weren’t any to begin with; thus sometimes leaving him no
choice but to walk away.
But, we are women after all and our intuition is never too far off. Sometimes, it is very much on the verge of "over" and we really just need to take it and the signs for what they're worth. Either way, it's really hard to know "what's what" at times. So, do we ever really know the answer? Well, instead of speculating, I thought it would be best to get the goods straight from the horse’s mouth.
But, we are women after all and our intuition is never too far off. Sometimes, it is very much on the verge of "over" and we really just need to take it and the signs for what they're worth. Either way, it's really hard to know "what's what" at times. So, do we ever really know the answer? Well, instead of speculating, I thought it would be best to get the goods straight from the horse’s mouth.
After
some enlightening conversations and assistance from the men in the T-Dot, we
found our answers and we’d like to share them with all of you.
HERE
ARE THE TOP 6 THINGS THAT WILL TELL YOU IF YOUR MAN IS LOSING INTEREST IN YOU:
#6
HIS
ROUTINE WITH YOU CHANGES:
One
of the biggest signs that your man is losing interest in you or your
relationship is if his patterns surrounding/involving you suddenly change. The
excitement of talking to or seeing you diminishes and he’d much rather “do his
own thing” than be with you. Now
naturally when this happens you will become sensitive to it and question him –
where he will tell you things like:
“I’ve just been really tired lately” or “Things are just so busy right
now” This can all be fine and true for the short term but if a guy is into you,
there isn’t much that will keep him away from you.
#5
HE
STOPS CALLING/TEXTING LIKE HE USED TO:
What
men don’t understand is that women become accustomed to what men get them used
to. So if you spoke several times a day
via phone, email or text message and all of the sudden that time spent
diminishes (or worse stops), then it’s safe to say that he may not be interested
in you like he once was. He may in fact
already be on to the next person and spending time talking to them
instead. Either way, it all points to
the fact that he may not be that into YOU anymore.
HE
MAKES PLANS WITHOUT YOU:
Ladies,
when a man starts spending more time on his own or with friends, chances are he
may be getting bored with you. The need to make plans with you or spend quality
time together just isn’t a priority anymore.
#3
HE
KEEPS STANDING YOU UP:
I
don’t know what’s worse, #8 or #7 – truly!
Either way, you’re getting hurt or he’s well on his way to checking OUT
of this relationship. When your man
agrees on plans you’ve made together and he doesn’t bother to show up (or calls
you up and breaks them at the last minute) he really doesn’t want to spend time
with you.
#2
HE
+ AFFECTION = NO GO:
Here’s
where it gets tricky and women seem to “miss the hint”. Sometimes, a woman may think that if she and
her man are still having sex, all is well.
Umm... NOT! Ladies, it’s time to say it like it is: SEX and AFFECTION can be 2 VERY different
things to a man. Sex is sex and he will
gladly be a willing participant but stuff like holding hands, kissing between
stop lights and cute little flirts with one another in public like you used to
do will NOT be happening anymore. #1
HE
IS ALWAYS VERY DEFENSIVE:
If
you feel like your man is losing interest you may be “unintentionally”
causing more tension to the situation if you keep questioning him about things.
Now, of course you need answers, but if
he’s reluctant (almost defensive) to discuss what’s going on; it’s more than
likely for a reason. More arguments
being picked over silly little things and over-reacting to questions could be a
big red flag.
So
there you have it! Some "rules" to go by. A special “thank you”
to the boys for stepping up and helping the ladies understand how it all goes
down. I bet the ladies will have their
very own rebuttal ready, VERY soon!
Happy
Dating, Everyone!
