Friday, July 25, 2014

What Men DON'T Want

 
 
Well, it seems that my last blog post (What Women Want) got some attention and it hit home for some of you (lol).  After receiving some feedback and e-mails from our male followers, the fellas voiced that they wanted a list of their own.  Far be it for me to argue with them.
So, I found it only fitting to "do one for the boys" as well.  However, instead of writing about want men want in a woman, they demanded a twist.

Ladies, listen up:  The guys have spoken and they want us all to know a few things that men “DON’T WANT” in women. This should be fun!

 
HERE ARE THE TOP 7 THINGS THAT MEN DON'T WANT IN A WOMAN:

 
# 7

NO SUGAR DADDY’S HERE, LADIES!
Regardless of what women think, we do NOT want a girl whose main objective is to spend all of our hard earned money.  Listen ladies, we love being “the gentleman” and treating you to things, because you’re special and always want you to feel as such.  However, the feeling goes both ways.  We wanna feel special too!!!! So try picking up the tab every once in a while.  Or, at the very least, make a reach for your wallet from time to time.  More often than not, we will always tell you that “we’ve got it”, but the fact that you made the gesture is what matters to us.

# 6

POOR HYGIENE – IT’S ANYTHING BUT SEXY
Ladies, we love it when you’re all put together nicely.  We love the softness of your skin, the intoxicating scent that lingers on your neck and your beautiful smile.  So maintenance of all these things is a vital component of getting (and keeping) any man.  We don’t like sloppy.   Don’t get me wrong, we love the natural look.  However, when that includes things like being:  un-shaven, un-brushed and un-sanitary we MUST draw the line.

# 5

WE HATE IT WHEN YOU NAG
Ladies, YOU ALL KNOW THIS IS TRUE.  So why do you do it?  Men don’t like to be talked down to and “bitched out” about every little thing that comes up in your brain.  We can only sit there and listen to this for so long.  If it happens often enough we learn to tune you out.  This is probably why women constantly ask us if we’re listening to them.  So that there’s no confusion, let me answer this question for all of you right now:  NO!  We’re not!  These days, thanks to social media, it’s not enough that women nag us in person.  Now women do it via text, Face Book and Twitter.  SERENITY NOW!!!

# 4
 
CLINGY = TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT
Men do not like women who MUST be around them 24/7.  We need our own space sometimes too.  We need our own time, to do what we like to do-alone.  We need our “guy time” with other men, to talk, hang out and watch a game.  So it’s very attractive when we meet women with their “own lives and identities” and don’t feel the need to be with us all the time.  We love spending time with you, but we also need some down time to just BE MEN!  Now ladies, so we’re clear, alone time also includes:  NO EXCESSIVE TEXTING, CALLING, BBM or showing up with 3 of your girlfriends to the same bar we’re at; claiming it’s a coincidence.  Sorry, but it had to be said.

 
# 3

CONTROL FREAKS NEED NOT APPLY
Men are men, so don’t try to change/control us.  You were attracted to us initially and it was “all good” for the first little while.  Now, all of the sudden, we’re not good enough.   What the hell is that all about?  You cannot just come into our lives and tell us who to be friends with, how often we can go out or how to dress.  Now, we don’t claim to be a perfect gender by any means but, it cannot be all bad.  If it was then you wouldn’t be with us.  So appreciate us for who we are and maybe, just maybe, we might even compromise on a couple of things.

# 2

CONFIDENCE IS THE SEXIEST THING ABOUT A WOMAN
Now I know women don’t believe this, but it’s true.  If a women exudes confidence it will automatically attract a man to her in some way.  Yes, we are a visual species but there’s nothing worse than being with a good looking lady who’s self-conscious and has no brain.   We need to be stimulated in more ways than just physically.   Be confident and comfortable in your own skin and of your worth.  However, understand that there is a fine line between confidence and being full of yourself.   Be confident, but humble.

 # 1

LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND
Men are ALWAYS paying for the sins of the past boyfriend.  Frankly, we’re sick of it.  If you have trust issues then maybe you should “check yourself” and give yourself some time, before getting to know someone new.  Just because your last guy cheated on you doesn’t mean that we all will.  You don’t have to become this possessive, controlling, clingy freak of a woman with no self-esteem; just because you’ve been hurt in love before.  News flash!  We’ve ALL been there.  So don’t let your past dictate your future.  It’s not sexy.

So, there you have it.  It seems that we just may still have A LOT to learn about one another!

Thank-you so much to all of you who wrote in with your comments, suggestions and feedback that made this blog post possible.  It was A LOT of fun to write.

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