In honor of a brand new radio show beginning in Toronto tonight called: "What The Women Want" I felt it fitting to dedicate this blog to it. The topic of the evening: "First Dates"
We've all been there. The infamous "first date". For some of us "lucky folk" more than once. It's an exciting time but it can also be quite nerve wracking as well.
Personally, I think that men and women place way too much pressure on themselves, trying to make sure that it goes off without a hitch. It's natural to be nervous before your first date with a new belle/beau. After all, the reason there is going to be one is because you really like this person, so you want to make a good impression. Unfortunately, some of us become so stressed out that we loose ourselves in the entire ordeal and forget what it should be about - being yourself and having fun!
Sometimes, I think that we`ve got it all wrong. I've always thought that "first date concepts" should come AFTER you've known someone a bit. Your first outing with someone should be spontaneous and fun. So why not try this instead:
If you're out somewhere with friends and you've spent the last half hour talking to someone that's caught your eye, leave and go have breakfast somewhere. Or if you've been making small talk with someone as your searching for your next favourite book or food item on a shelf, go grab a Latte and get to know one another, right then and there. I mean you know that there is some kind of attraction or connection between one another, so why waste time exchanging numbers that you will probably loose or change your mind about by the time you get home. Just do it now. Have that time to connect.
Once you've done that and gotten to know one another a little, THEN you can plan for your first "official outing" together. This way, the pressure is completely off because you've already spent time together. So you know what you like to talk about. You already know what you both like to do for fun. Where you both like to go and spend time. There will be no need to put on a front because you will already be more than comfortable to just be "yourself"
Which ever way you choose to do it, here are some "Gia Tips" on first dates:
For The Guys:
- Before meeting a lady for your date, stop off and pick up a small token or gesture for her. Trust me, it's a very nice touch and she will think it's incredibly sweet. I know, it may sound corny and a bit old-fashioned, but put in that tiny effort to show women that chivalry is NOT dead!
- Dress the part for your outing.
- Don't let your head turn into a "bauble head doll"
- Avoid talking about yourself
- Make another date
- No "tongue hockey" necessary
For The Gals:
- Don`t be late
- Make a decision
- Order thoughtfully
- Chivalry works both ways
- Leave the past behind
- Don`t Make Him Sweat The Goodbye
Regardless of the negative reputation that dating gets on occasion, it`s a fun, exciting and happy moment in your life. Make the most of it. If you`re lucky you may create a memory that you can share with your kids someday. Or, at the very least moments you can laugh about with your friends later on in life. Either way, you`ve put yourself out there. If it works out, fantastic. If it doesn`t, oh well. At least you tired. Most importantly, never lose sight of the fact that it should be fun and easy. After all, if it`s neither of these things...why do it