TIME TO FIND THE OTHERS

 

 

It astounds me just how many hours a day I think about my life and who I am suppose to be within it. 

I’ve always been the kind of individual who had to find “meaning” in everything.  What I do, everything I am and all I feel must have some underlying purpose; just waiting to be discovered.    I believe that is why I love words so much.  They express what on most occasions I cannot say. 

I came across an incredible quote today, written by Timothy Leary.  The piece was called:  “Find the Others” It goes without saying that if I’m writing about it, it spoke directly to me.  It moved me in an indescribable way. 

It spoke about admitting to yourself (once and for all) that you may not be like everybody else and how incredibly “okay” it all was.  To own and accept who you are – even during the worst of times.  Because let’s face it, it’s always easier to love and accept yourself, when you are in a good place.  Yet, how difficult is it to “love and accept yourself” when you aren’t?  Probably one of life’s toughest challenges hands down! 

So it made me think. 

Could the problem be that all my life I’ve been trying so desperately to be “just like everybody else”?  I mean I’d like to think the opposite, really.  That most of my life I’ve struggled and fought so hard to find/keep my own identity.  Yet, could it very well be that all along, all I ever craved was to be “accepted”?

So perhaps all this time I’ve been going against the grain – against my own element.  Almost like trying to put a circular block into a triangular hole – it just won’t fit!  Maybe that’s it.  I’ve been trying to lead a life that others thought I should, rather than discovering who I really am and living a life JUST...FOR...ME.

Maybe that’s why everything has always felt so wrong.  Why the situations I find/put myself in don’t fit/match the basic fundamentals of who I am as a person.  Perhaps that is why some of us are unhappy because we keep trying to fight who we are.

Thomas’s piece ends on a high note, saying that there are more of us out there.  That those of us who are NOT like everybody else should strive to find each other.  Everyone we meet (or who comes into our lives) is for a given purpose.  That nothing in life is merely by coincidence and that it’s most true about people who share that life with us.

By finding the others of like mind, spirit and soul, you can finally see that your flaws are perfect – especially to someone who loves you or shares your meaning for life – namely yourself!  Ultimately, finding yourself would be the best treasure of all.

Perhaps it’s time to let go and concentrate on who I am, rather than trying to be like everyone else.  That maybe it’s time to truly put focus on loving ourselves, instead of trying so hard to be someone that another could/would love. Because knowing that anyone worth loving loves you for who you truly are anyway –simply because they know your worth.

 Perhaps it is indeed time to find the others..

 

 

 

 

SPRING LOVE

With spring just around the corner, the world around us begins to change. We always get a certain lift or feeling come over us; knowing that longer, warmer days are one their way. It’s amazing what a little bit of sunshine can do to the human psyche.

To many of us, the coming of spring symbolizes things such as: Life, rebirth and growth. It’s a time when flowers bloom, butterflies begin to flutter and even bees return to buzz around their favourite plants.

It gives you the sense that a new beginning, surrounding are lives, is possible and we start to feel happy and cheerful. The days of driving to and from work in complete darkness are over and the chance to become one with nature has returned. Even the very word “spring” can light up someone’s face in seconds; especially when they’ve just finished a dark, cold and miserable winter.


Because of all that spring symbolizes, there are many habits/rituals that individuals correlate with this time of year. Since the season has a lot to do with new beginnings, many people find themselves cleaning out their closets – riding themselves of old clothes and lightening their loads. It almost takes on a psychological meaning in some way. The lighter your load, the happier you will be.

Another habit that people incorporate into spring is gardens. Whether it’s a flower or vegetable garden, folks cannot wait to get their hands dirty and begin making their surroundings look beautiful again. Making their homes look alive and new. While some plant, others paint. After a long and dreary winter it might be nice to give your home a fresh new look with a fantastic new colour scheme. You’d be surprised what a coat of paint can do for your walls – and your spirit!

No matter how many different things people do to welcome spring in their midst, one particular habit always takes rank over the others. That’s, getting your body ready for summer. Spring is a perfect time to begin that new diet or exercise regime; knowing full well that “beach body” weather is just around the corner. Spring can make you painfully aware that you may have had one too many turtle chocolate bon bons over Christmas and what’s worse; no bulky sweater is going to save or hide you for much longer. Finding a workout buddy is probably easiest to find around this time of year because there are so many of us out there of like mind.

So, while technically the “new year” is traditionally marked by the clock striking 12 on December 31st, it’s really the beginning of a new season that can truly symbolize change. I believe that spring is that season - A time for change and beauty that no other realm of time can possibly touch or live up to.

 A toast to the upcoming season.  May it be the beginning of all things wonderful for us all!