Monday, March 19, 2012
"To be a warrior is not a simple matter of wishing to be one. You must condition the mind, body and soul to understand that you are one. It is rather an endless struggle that will go on to the very last moment of our lives. Nobody is born a warrior, in exactly the same way that nobody is born an average man. We make ourselves into one or the other. We make ourselves into who we want to be"— Carlos Castaneda
This is something I try to live every day. It can be a struggle at times, but if you truly practice living out this quotation you will see how very true it is.
A few years ago I met someone who now mentors me in my career today. I remember the first time I spoke with him. He already knew about me (who I was and want I wanted to do with my life) but his job was to make me REALLY want it.
The first thing he asked me was: “ So who are you?” Confused I answered I’m Gia. “No, who are you?” Again, confused at what he wanted me to say, I remained silent. “How do people know you in this world? What do you do for a living – WHO ARE YOU?” I replied: “Ohhh, I work within Government.” Now it was his turn to look at me confused. “Is that who you are, Gia?”, he asked. “Is that what you want people to know/see when they hear your name or look at you?” “Is THAT what you were meant to do for the rest of your life, Gia?” “Who are you, really?”
I wasn’t exactly sure that the answer I was about to give was the correct one but it exploded out of me as if my heart just awakened for the sole purpose of answering this question. “I want to be a Writer” He smiled. “That’s right, you do, don’t you, Gia?” And I did. With every fibre of my being.
I don’t want to be doing what I was, but had to in order to survive-for the moment. But my mentor taught me that in order to truly attain the dream I wanted, I had to live it. Of course, I couldn’t quit my day job, because it paid the bills for now (barely does even that most days) so how was I going to do this? Then, he told me one final thing that I have never forgotten: “ You have to live with your dream in the present.
Therefore, if you have to STOP telling yourself and others that Gia is an “aspiring Writer” .
You have to stop saying that “someday I would like to be a published author” What you MUST do is begin telling others and yourself that you ARE a Writer. That you ARE an author. His lesson was simply that. If one believes whole-heartedly in themselves and the dreams/aspirations they have for their life, they MUST live in the present with them. So I conditioned my mind to understand that I AM a Writer…NOW. Not that I will be, but that I AM…NOW!
I didn’t exactly understand how that would bring me closer to my dream OR how it would help but I was willing to try it.
So whenever someone asked me what I do for a living, I simply replied: “I’m a Writer” Not someday plan to be. Not someday will be. I AM A WRITER..today! Soon my entire psychology about it all changed. Physiologically, I had learned to program my mind to become in sync with my soul and feel (whole-heartedly) that I was a Writer.
Then, some magic happened. I began my own blog page and then went on from there to create LIFE AFX. I began to receive emails from people who loved my work/my writing and started a fan base.
Then, I was given the opportunity to write for my Government newsletter and became published for different articles. Following that, I was given another opportunity at work to become a Writing Coordinator, working with the Assistant Deputy Minister of the Government program I am affiliated with. And so on.. It just seemed to snowball from there.
Who would have thought that from a simple “frame of mind” setting that all this (and more) would come from it? Certainly not I. I am forever grateful, that I have learned this lesson, for it has changed my life in more ways than I can count.
Hi Everyone! My name is Gia and I’m a singer/songwriter and author. I work with and collaborate with different artists, musicians, DJ’s and writers to create music and words for the world to see and hear. Within this life, I will forever be known as the woman who adored music and writing so much that I just had to bring my touch to it and share it with all of you. It is who I am…who I’ve always been. I AM all of these things and more, so thank you for allowing me to bring you all forms of my expressions!
Saturday, March 17, 2012
More than ever before, we've become a world that basis love or the self-worth of individuals by numbers. An IQ score, a credit rating, a balance amount in your bank accounts, the K we make in year and the killer of them all - the numbers on a scale. We are all what I like to call "Loved By Numbers" and I for one and sick of it. How dare we continue to allow life to dictate who can be loved? How can we continue to all life to portary who will be loved based on what they look like? When put like that it sounds kind of sickening, doesn't it? Yet we ALL allow it to happen. We are ALL guilty of it in some form or fashion.
Love and worth by numbers. It is the root of all addictions, suicides, bullying, anxiety and depression. It all scares me.
"To all young women out there today who struggle with just trying to be enough so that you will be loved by a man: Always know that the love and respect that you have for yourself will always be LOUDER than anything. Always, ALWAYS trust in that"
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
I wanted to take the opportunity to properly introduce my new website to the world, but most importantly to all of you-my dearest fans.
I know that this is long overdue and that many of you have awaited it’s arrival for some time. I am so honoured and grateful for all your emails with suggestions and input on the site. They were all well received. I truly mean it when I say that LIFE AFX would have never flourished without any of you. Thank you for taking in this silly girls words and made them significant in your life. I cannot tell you how much you all mean to me.
So, essentially the site will be in focus and cause to nurture my writing further, of course. However, it will also be to begin the Promotion of different artists that I will be working with, in order to get their careers started or furthering them within the industry. Being a struggling/starving artist myself, I know how hard it is to get your name/work out there. To make it known to the world. To follow your dreams and your passions. So my big focus will be bringing the world articles and bios to help promote artists/clients that I believe have that X-Factor; and bring Public Relations to a whole other level for them. You may even see some of my own music here someday. One never knows what the future can hold!!
As well as my own blog writing and artist promos, I still wanted to keep a fun/fresh vibe to the page, so I have decided to keep the “LIFE AFX Horoscope and Dating 101 pages” going.
The Horoscope will be PERSONALLY written by “yours truly” each month, and it will be my very own take on your sign and what I believe will be in store for you each month. A little light and funny reading in a world where all is taken WAY too seriously. So I really hope you all enjoy it.
Being that I’m currently in the dating scene, I thought it would be fun to take you on some of my journeys, as well as the journeys of others. This page will display dating stories, frequently asked dating questions, polls, dating rants, pictures and advice for men on what Ladies really want from them. Yes, that’s right! You may just find out how the “caramel filling gets into the caramilk chocolate bar” sort of speak…LOL! BUT.. you will have to keep logging on to find out. So if you’re currently in the dating world (like me), recently been rescued from the scene or are happily married with children – there will always be something in this section to make you go: “Hmmm..”
Now I have one more surprise left to tell you about, but I will keep that little secret to myself a little while longer. What I will say, is that there will be a special “Toronto Celebrity” who will be joining the LIFE AFX family in the near future with their very own page on my site. Trust me, you won’t wanna miss it!
So, needless to say I am extremely excited to see where this journey will take me and how it will unfold. For now, I’m enjoying the ride!
I truly hope you all enjoy the site. Please feel free to write me anytime at: email@example.com
For artists interested in Promotions, Public Relations or collaborations please contact: firstname.lastname@example.org
For individuals or organizations interested in hiring LIFE AFX for writing opportunities please contact: email@example.com
Your emails are always welcome.